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Mother’s Day Musings, from Au Pairs to Host MomsWhat do our au pairs really think of us Host Moms?Every now and then I wonder about this. Au Pairs see us at our very worst mommyness (e.g., wet hair, no makeup, screeching about laundry) and at our very best (snuggling our kids, solving problems, singing in the car). Au Pairs also see what we can’t see — because we’re too crazy-busy to take time out to reflect on what a great job we’re doing as moms. Au Pairs have the inside scoop on us host moms. But most times, host moms never find out exactly what it is we do that you au pairs think is wonderful, because it seems impolite to ask for specific examples of how great we are. So, let me (aupairmom) ask on behalf of all host moms: What do you see when you see us, your host moms, at our very best? Please leave your thoughts, below, as a (Host) Mother’s Day gift for all of us host moms here at Au Pair Mom,
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Proposed Immigration Legislation Affecting AuPairs: What do you think?This week, many host families received letters from their Au Pair Agencies and/or from the Alliance for International Education and Cultural Exchange. (Note: The Alliance is an advocacy group for cultural exchange programs. Many au pair agencies are members). Previously, we’ve received requests to contact our Representatives about changes in Tax Law.
(See links below for more details. A sample of the letters to the host families is also below.) The Agencies and the Alliance are urging Host Families to contact our Senators and express our opposition to the changes. Should we follow their recommendation? A few host parents have emailed me to express their concern about the proposed changes. Others have emailed questioning whether the Agencies’ and Alliance’s perspectives on the issue are really the best approach for doing what’s right by au pairs, host families and the exchange programs themselves. For example, JJHost Mom emailed: Personally I’m disturbed by the idea (in the legislation) of specifically saying that au pairs aren’t workers, and that this isn’t a job for them. It is a job, and it’s hard work. It is also a cultural exchange. It’s not one or the other. But I don’t know the legal implications of following this thought through. I would love to hear the opinions of the other host parents, specifically those in the legal profession or... What do Host Parents think about Nanny Cams?: Au Pair AsksIt’s been a long time since we had our last conversation about Nanny Cams. We’ve had a couple of suggestions for a post about them, but I have always resisted. Only about 15% of host parent readers who took our poll back then reported that they even considered using a nanny cam. Personally, I really dislike the idea of a nanny cam, and think that if you’re considering using one, you’re better off rematching with an au pair you trust. That said, a German au pair emailed asking that we address the topic:
Have any of you host parents changed you minds about using a nanny cam?Anyone who swore they wouldn’t, and then did? Personally, I’d rather have a kiddie cam, so that I could watch my adorbs kids all. day. long. But the school doesn’t allow that. sigh.
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When Your Au Pair Loses Your Smart PhoneYeah, it happens. The phone falls out of a pocket into a puddle. Or a purse gets stolen. Whatever the reason … If your au pair loses or breaks the smart phone that you provided for her/him, it is up to her/him to replace it, or to pay to replace it.One of our au pairs lost a cell phone when she was on a long trip with AP friends… It was pretty fancy (fancier than mine at the time). She found the same model of phone- used- online, and bought it. She took it to the Verizon store and got it activated with her/the au pair phone number, and it all worked out. We appreciated that she not only took care of replacing the phone (in nearly exactly the age & condition her original one was), she also took care of the administration and schlepping that replacing the phone required. Great job, au pair! But it’s always complicated. Like the au pair car, smartphones are both a privilege and expectation, an ‘extra’ and required for the job. A ‘work’ thing and a personal thing.
As NYAPHost Mom writes:
Apps for Au Pairs — Suggestions from Lara CoffeeHost Mom, Marketer and Blogger Lara Coffee (@laracoffee) has gathered together her recommended “Top 10 App for Au Pairs” and sends the link our way. Lara writes: I know most families might not provide a smart phone, but from my experience, the Au Pairs have their own devices any ways. We hope our Au Pairs are not on them all the time, but I am realistic and know mine are on them and they use them when they are not working. So, I figure to make their transition easier, I would provide them with some of the best apps to download. Let me send you over to Lara’s blog to read the whole list. The app that made me chuckle was the Clothing Size Conversion app– which my imagination turned into an app that helps au pairs (and anyone else) convert the size she thinks she is in her mind into the size she fits into at Forever21. It has an alarm if the intended outfit is age-inappropriate, obvs. Which made me wonder — what apps do I wish all au pairs had on their smart phones? “Drunken FratFellow BS Detector”?
Real or imaginary, what smartphone apps would you recommend to an au pair?
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