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A Wrecked Marriage–Saved Over Lunch

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If you’re joining me from P31 Devotions today, welcome!

“I can’t STAND my husband. I’ve had enough. It’s over. I’m so finished

with this marriage, Sharon. I’m DONE… DONE!” She screamed as I held

the phone away from my ear. She started sobbing. I waited. I could hear

her kids fighting in the background and a baby screaming. She said,

“Sharon, can the kids and I come over right now? I need your help. I don’t

know what to do with my life.”

Everything in me wanted to say, “NO!” It was lunch time. Her kids plus

mine would be a miniature army to feed. We were renovating our house

and the kitchen was out of service. I was using my bedroom as a makeshift

kitchen. We didn’t even have running water! I couldn’t imagine feeding

her crew and mine, much less have enough ingredients for a lunch.

Without thinking further I said, “Get the kids in the van and get over here!

We’ll talk over lunch while the kids play.” I heard her phone disconnect

before I even finished the sentence.

I rummaged through a box and found oatmeal, walnuts, maple syrup and

water bottles. That’s it, I thought. We’re eating oatmeal for lunch. That’s

all I’ve got! I made it on one of those table top burners. It was the biggest

pot of oatmeal you’ve ever seen.

The bowls and spoons were covered in dust from the construction. I wiped

’em clean. A little dirt never hurt anybody, I thought to myself. My kids

came in and asked why I had so many bowls. I said, company’s coming.

Your FRIENDS! They squealed with delight.

15 bowls of piping hot oatmeal topped with butter, walnuts, milk and

drizzled maple syrup were ready! I ran outside. Pulled 15 apples off the

apple tree and sat one next to every bowl.

The house was a wreck but I don’t think she ever saw it. She had tunnel

vision. All she could see was her doomed marriage. Everyone got their

bowl of oatmeal- including the construction workers.

We all sat down on the dusty floor, bowed our heads in prayer, ate, and

talked. The kids talked. The construction workers talked. My friend and I

talked.

As she told me her story, I thought to myself, “Oh my GOODNESS! I can’t

imagine being married to this man-either!” But I wasn’t about to say it! I

let her talk for over an hour without saying a word. At the end of it all, she

looked at me and said, “Well, what do you think?”

Within my spirit I prayed and asked God to help me say only what He

wanted me to say. My flesh wrestled with my spirit- BIG TIME! Lord?!

This guys a jerk! A total JERK!

I looked into her eyes and said, “Let’s pray and ask what He thinks.”

Words rolled out of my mouth that I hadn’t planned or thought. So much

better than what my thoughts were.

The prayer was finished and she looked at me and said, “I’m going to need

a lot of prayer to get through this Sharon. Everything you said really

convicted me today. I do love him and I believe more than ever after

coming here, that God is going to turn this around and use it for our good.

She hollered for her kids. Hauled them into the van and off they went. She

went back home to her husband, the kids’ dad, the family united. They

started to love each other again…

What did I do?

Served 15 bowls of piping hot oatmeal in 15 dusty bowls on a dusty floor

and barely said a word of my own. Listened. Kept my mouth closed and

invited the Lord through prayer to lead our thoughts. He is faithful and boy

did He answer.

“Ask and you shall receive. Seek and you shall find. Knock and the door will

be opened to you.”

Do you have a friend who’s going through a hard time with money,

marriage, kids, or their health? One you should invite over but haven’t

because your house isn’t in order? It doesn’t matter what your house looks

like or what you serve ’em! They need your help!

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Marriage is Like Farming- It Must be Cultivated

A magical marriage

The grain bag was almost empty, so I reached deeply into the dark bag to get a scoop for my chickens… Suddenly something scurried up my arm sleeve! You would have thought an anaconda was in my shirt the way I jumped and screamed! Within 10 seconds a mouse jumped right out of the top of my shirt! I’m surprised we didn’t both roll over and die right there!

People love farms. I think it’s inborn. You know an innate desire deep within for “that” farm- where the grass is always green, the animals are always content and luscious organic food grows effortlessly.

Ahhh… but what people don’t see is what it takes to make “that” farm.

A diligent farmer never, ever goes a single day without working and laboring by the sweat of his brow on behalf of the farm. You have to fight for it. YOU DO! You protect its borders, maintain the fences… love and cherish it, in sickness and in health- till death do you part.

Only a farmer with this mentally has “that” beautiful, “magical” farm.

You must be willing to fight predators single handedly who come to steal, kill and destroy; like snakes eating our breakfast, foxes dragging off the chickens, or coyote’s stealing our newborn kids (baby goats).

The work doesn’t stop there. There’s poop to scoop, fields to mow, poisonous vines to annihilate, goats to milk in 0-100 degree temperatures. . .  Left unattended for just a short while and you wouldn’t want the farm!

People love looking at our goats, chickens, and turkeys strutting about the farm. They love watching the fireflies dance about over the open field at night… roaming the nature paths… With dreamy eyes many say to me, “Oh this place is magical! I want a farm, just like it.” I smile and nod, thinking to myself, if they only knew the labor. Would they really want it?

A good marriage is just like a good farm.

People love good marriages, it’s innate. Everyone desires “true love.” Oh, it’s breathtaking. People flock to movies to see a powerful love story about a couple who would do anything for love. They sit with popcorn in hand, tears streaming and wish their love story was “that” one.

Just like a farm, marriages have predators that threaten “true love.” You know what I’m talking about… Something or someone that seeks to destroy you and/or devour your marriage. You’ve got to FIGHT for your marriage! YOU DO! Protect the borders. Maintain the fences. Love and cherish it in sickness and in health- till death do you part.

The work doesn’t stop there. There’s stinky messes to clean,  poisonous vines (words that destroy) to annihilate… love to be lavished sacrificially. . .left unattended for one season and you wouldn’t want the marriage.

Yep… There are moments that I don’t want to farm anymore; like when a mouse runs up my sleeve and out the top of my shirt. I’m finished, I am! But in the grand scheme of things a mouse in my shirt is the very least of the costs of having “that” farm. Some things you just got to get over no matter how unnerving and press on toward the prize of the high calling.

A good marriage is like a good farm. It is a work in process that can never be left unattended- not even for one day. Luscious fruit doesn’t grow effortlessly. You’ve got fight for it. YOU DO.

I always dreamt of living on a farm. Never, ever did I think it would be so hard. But we’ve got “that” farm- where the grass is green and the animals are content. Actually, it is magical to live here but we work hard at it.

Our marriage is magical too, but we work really hard at it.

Gen 3:18-19

“Both thorns and thistles it shall grow for you; And you will eat the plants of the field; By the sweat of your face You will eat bread, Till you return to the ground…”

Gen 2:22-24 “Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, ”This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman, ‘ for she was taken out of man.” For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”

Edward when he was born

Edward when he was born.

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Edward our French Alpine buck.  He’s famous on The Glasgow Farm.

chickens

Sparky and chickens

 

Snake eating our breakfast

Yep a black snake in the chicken coop- eating our breakfast! He never came back for another egg after this day.

Edward

A content animal.

Turkey's

Every night before dusk we have to put the Turkey’s in their house or the foxes come looking for them.

Sparky and cat

Trolly unloading people

Trolly unloading people onto our farm for a wedding- 2 hours before they arrived. Edward knocked down his fence that led straight to where the trolly is parked. Dale worked hard to mend the fence before 200 people arrived!

 

Ground hogs- every year Dale secures the garden. He built a wooden fence to the ground with chicken wire around it.  They've dug under, climbed over. . . I've turned around while weeding before and seen one looking me straight in the eyes! You've got to fight for your garden!

Ground hogs.  Every year Dale secures the garden. He built a wooden fence to the ground with chicken wire around it. They’ve dug under, climbed over. . . I’ve turned around while weeding before and seen one looking me straight in the eyes! You’ve got to fight for your garden! They love anything with blossoms, especially zucchini, cucumbers and squash.

Fence and gate

Deer  jump over and  foxes crawl under  fences to  get to what they want- it’s up to us to protect within our border.
     
 

Mulberry Sorbet- Super Hero Food

Today's harvest from one tree- we have three more to harvest from

Today’s harvest from one tree- we have three more to harvest-each will keep producing for several weeks!

Mulberries are the latest rage in “superfood.”  Their antioxidants are 79% higher than blueberries and 24% higher than cranberries. They contain  high levels of resveratrol- the super hero antioxidant. They outperform cranberries, blueberries, blackberries and raspberries with its phytoactive ingredients!

In a recent article by the Journal of Infectious Diseases it proved that resveratrol decreased the reproduction of the influenza virus.

Studies have shown that eating high levels of antioxidant’s can also help protect from age disorders, cancer, Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s.

So, if you, your neighbor or the park next door has a mulberry tree, go get ’em! 

Mulberry Sorbert- Super Hero Food

Mulberry Sorbet- Super Hero Food- I didn’t let this cure in freezer for an hour, when you cure it, it will hold its shape

Mulberry Sorbet

5 cups of washed fresh or frozen mulberries (remove stems if you desire, it takes a lot of time)

*1 tablespoon elderberry elixir (if you have it!)

1 cup organic sugar & 1/4 cup water- heated in pot until sugar melts

Ingredients for sorbet-Mulberries, organic sugar, water and elderberry elixir if you have it

Ingredients for sorbet-Mulberries, organic sugar, water and elderberry elixir if you have it

Puree mulberries and add to melted sugar and stir well. Let chill in refrigerator for 6 hours.

Pour into ice-cream maker and follow the makers directions for making sorbet.

Let set in freezer(cure)  for an hour before serving.

For 10 things to make with mulberries click here!

Caution:

If you’re not into health, don’t waste your time harvesting mulberries. It takes a LOT of work. Read how we harvest.

After you harvest the fruit- you’ve got to go through and get twigs, branches, rotten and unripe fruit out. Which could take hours if you have bushels and bushels and more bushels. . .

The only people who would go through this amount of work  are people who don’t have the money for superfood in the market, people who are ultra serious about their health and want to stock up or farmers who can’t let anything go to waste.

This is “today’s” harvest from one tree, we have three more trees! Yep, I didn’t take a photo of yesterday’s bounty.

The trees will keep producing high yields for the next few weeks. Well, I better stop talking and get to work! I love super hero food and Dale’s a true farmer at heart- he can’t let harvest go to waste.

     
 

A Season to Work

IMG_7536When we were raising our five daughters, we worked hard every day. I thought for sure the next season of life would be easier.  You know… -less work.

I’ve come to realize that as long as I have life in this body, it will be a season to work.  We have a friend on the farm helping  today (Luciano) who just said, “If you’re not living on the edge, you’re taking up too much space!” Hehe, he’s a pastor and also lives life to the fullest capacity! When he has nothing left to give, God refuels him to give even more.

My husband and I take off one day of week to rest.  Six days a week we go hard, really hard. 

In the past month I’ve traveled and spoke EVERY week.  And, we’ve hosted a wedding on our farm EVERY weekend. . .

The harvest is SO ripe, I get to see people coming to Christ and surrendering all- it's the greatest thing in all the world

The harvest is SO ripe. I get to see people coming to Christ and surrendering all.  It’s the greatest thing in all the world.  I wouldn’t want to do anything else!

Joel 3:13 “Put in the sickle, for the harvest is ripe. Go in, tread, for the winepress is full. The vats overflow…”

What a blessing to get to minister

The living Word of God pours out like a fire hydrant on dry bones! Oh to witness what God does with His Word.  Indescribable.

We've had two people come to Christ on our farm at weddings! We are now praying  with every family who gets married here. Many who come here don't know Jesus.

We’ve had two people come to Christ on our farm at weddings! We are now praying with every family who get married here. Many who come here don’t know Jesus before the wedding.

We have a wedding this year EVERY weekend except August 1, Christmas and Thanksgiving!  Yeah… not one wedding passes without us praying for someone or many. After praying for the bride and bridesmaids at one wedding, the word got out that my husband and I were ministers and all throughout the reception we had a constant flow of people coming to us for personal prayer. Can it get any better than that?

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The work on a farm never stops.  Never.

Gal 6:9, “And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.” Beautiful set Free hosted a benefit dinner in our barn for Brothel's in the Red Zone of India. Three children from India rescued from the effects of suffering and sex slavery came to join us all the way from India and led us in worship, singing, "There is power in the Name of Jesus...Breaking every chain...There's an army rising up..."

Set Beautiful Free hosted a benefit dinner in our barn for Brothel’s in the Red Light District of India. Three children from India rescued from the effects of suffering and sex slavery came to join us all the way from India and led us in worship.  They sang, “There is power in the Name of Jesus…Breaking every chain…There’s an army rising up…”
One of my blog family whom I'd never met came to my speaking event in PA last weekend! Thank you Linda, for blessing me more than you can imagine!

One of my blog family members whom I’d never met before came to my speaking event in PA last weekend! Thank you Linda for blessing me more than you can imagine!

Our princess and prince announced that our seventh grandchild will make its grand appearance to the world in November 2015! Tears of joy continue to randomly burst every time I think of it!

In middle of  our season of work, God blows us away with BLESSING upon BLESSING!  Our princess and prince announced that our seventh grandchild will make its grand appearance to the world in November 2015!  Tears of joy continue to randomly burst every time I think of it!

 

Last weekend after speaking in PA, I drove 6 hours to get home for a Mother's Day dinner- PERFECT way to end a wonderful weekend!

Last weekend after speaking in PA, I drove 6 hours to get home for a Mother’s Day dinner.  It was the PERFECT way to end such a wonderful weekend!

Mother's Day bliss- We missed Jennifer and Alex- they're in Italy. Ellie  in Kansas City

Mother’s Day bliss.  We missed Jennifer and Alex.  They’re in Italy. Ellie in Kansas City.

We visit my precious mom every week. This week we celebrated Mother's Day going to The Cheesecake Factory!

Every week my precious mom, Dale, and I have dinner and fun together. This week we celebrated Mother’s Day going to The Cheesecake Factory!

I cracked TWO teeth this week! Yep- yesterday one got a crown

I cracked TWO teeth this week! oh boy! :(

Starting my day with the Lord is the only way to keep it all in balance and to know His voice and follow His leading

Starting my day with the Lord is the only way to keep it all in balance and to know His voice and follow His leading.

Going out now to mow grass for this weekend’s wedding.  When that’s finished, I’ll finish preparing for Sunday’s speaking event in Jonestown, PA.

Have a blessed weekend! If it’s a season of work for you, I pray God gives you what you need to accomplish it all! Col 3:23 “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men…”

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The Drug for Hopelessness

Glory of the Lord over our Barn

Glory of the Lord over our Barn!

If you are visiting from Proverbs 31 devotions welcome!

Hopelessness knocks on every door, even spiritual giants. If we

succumb to the temptation to believe there is no hope- hopelessness is

given permission to rule us.

Hopelessness tempted me at a young age, but God graciously showed

me the way of escape. To this day when hopeless thoughts attempt to rule me–

I remember what I learned that day.

I had come home from school and found my mom lying on her bed in

convulsions. I called 911. On the way to the hospital I prayed that God

would save her life. Matthew 7:7, “Ask and it will be given unto you…”

repeated in my thoughts. The rescue crew worked feverishly to get her

heart to beat. When we got to the hospital they put me in a little room

off the big waiting room. The doctor came in and told me my mom had

died on the way to the hospital.

My faith didn’t fail at this point.

The doctor took me back to see my mom. As I put my hand on her

foot, the flat line on the monitor showed a heart beat, then two. . .

She was put into intensive care, unconscious. My sisters, brother, and

I went to my dad’s house (who didn’t live with us).

I waited till everyone was asleep. I opened my Bible to II Chronicles

20. A vast battle was coming against the Southern Kingdom in Israel,

Judah. The battle was so over-powering that it would be impossible to

win. When Jehoshaphat heard of the battle- the Scripture says he

feared and sought God. He also proclaimed a fast in all of Judah.

Then, he gathered all of the people together and then started to praise

God for all He had done for them. Soon after, a prophet stood up in

the audience and said that the battle would not be their’s- but God’s.

A strategy came from heaven… The next day they put worshippers in

the front of the battle line, singing,

“Praise the Lord,

For His mercy endures forever.”

As soon as the worship started, the battle was won. Even as

a child, this charged my spirit. I read the same chapter over and over

all night, without going to sleep! I wept over this chapter, praying that

I would have the ability to live it, myself.

That morning, I got on a school bus exhausted from no sleep. I felt

hopelessness closing in on me. I didn’t know if my mom made it

through the night. What would happen to us? I thought how can I be

so hopeless when I was in His presence- ALL night??

My faith started to fail. The Lord whispered to my heart, “Will you

live it?” I prayed, “JESUS, this is too hard! I saw You do a miracle

yesterday and here I am today in total despair.”

Nothing in me wanted to worship. Absolutely nothing. I felt no

strength or power in my spirit. I was a goner. Have you ever been

there? A lifeless goner?

I stood up on the bus. I knew that in II Chronicles

20 they won the battle when they started to worship. I couldn’t sing a

lick and didn’t even know one worship song’s words! But, I was desperate to win the battle– so I started to

sing Amazing Grace (off key) and missing half the words. I noticed

that when I started to worship- the darkness lifted off. . . 

There’s a lot more to the story…

My mom lived and I learned a powerful truth. Psalm 34:17-20 “When

the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears and delivers them out of all

their troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the

crushed in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the

Lord delivers him out of them all.”

Mom and me at lunch this past week- Thank You Lord

Mom and me at lunch this past week- Thank You Lord

To this day when hopelessness knocks on my door (and yes

unfortunately as long as we live in these flesh bodies we will have occasional hopeless

thoughts)- I remember what He calls me to do and do it!

1. Cry out to Him!

2. Worship Him!

3. Believe His Word and live it!

Hopelessness knocks on every door- even spiritual giants (Elijah, Job,

Moses, Peter…) If we succumb to the temptation of believing there is

no hope, then hopelessness is given permission to rule us. We

cannot allow hopelessness to rule- we have the key to

overcome it!

God graciously saves the crushed spirit- but we have a part to play.

We must do our part.

Are you in a battle? Is your faith being tested? Do you feel like a

“goner?” You’re in the perfect place for God to deliver you! Cry out to

Him. Worship Him. Believe His Word and LIVE IT!

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